BDSM Impact Play

⏳ Spanking

Spanking is the most famous type of impact play. You can do it as long as you have hands. What makes it especially interesting is that spanking lets you feel your partner’s flesh directly, and it is easy to stop, slow down, or adjust the rhythm whenever you want.

It is also harder to injure your partner unintentionally because your hands do not have the sharp edges that some toys may have. Give your partner one to two seconds to recover between strikes. The faster you play, the stronger it can feel.

You can also try spanking in the bedroom as part of role-play, such as a naughty student and teacher scenario. Pull your playful partner onto your lap or let them lean over a table.

⏳ Paddling

A paddle is a flat spanking tool with a handle. They are usually long, narrow rectangles, but they also come in round, leaf-shaped, and many other designs.

Paddles come in a variety of materials, including leather, wood, rubber, metal, and silicone, as well as different textures. Some are even lined with fur. You can rub your partner’s bare skin with a furry paddle for a softer sensation, or use a firmer textured paddle for a more intense feeling.

⏳ Flogging

A flogger is a toy with a handle and multiple tails, and the exact number varies by design. It is another great option when you are exploring impact play.

Floggers are relatively easy to pick up, and the variety of sizes and materials means you can choose a toy with the intensity you want. Flogger handles are usually, though not always, wrapped in leather. The tails are available in a variety of materials as well.

You can vary the intensity by changing how hard you swing the flogger, and the design of the toy can also affect how much pain or sensation it produces.

Practice is necessary for this play. As with all forms of impact play, you should first practice handling the flogger on a pillow or other soft surface. This can give you an idea of how far away you need to be from your target and how hard you need to swing to make sure the end of the flogger’s tails lands where you intend.

⏳ Cropping

A riding crop is traditionally used by equestrian athletes, but it has also been adopted by kink users who enjoy impact play, including those who enjoy pony or pet play.

A crop consists of a thin, flexible rod, usually wrapped in leather, though it can also be made of other materials. At one end is a small piece of leather or loop that acts as the striking tip.

Remember to use the end of the crop rather than the rod itself when touching or striking your partner’s body. The small size of the crop creates a more focused, sharper, and more intense sensation because it covers only a small area. Repeating the movement on the same part of your partner’s body will enhance this feeling.

⏳ Caning

A cane is a thin rod, usually made of rattan or bamboo. The finer and thinner the cane, the stronger and sharper the feeling tends to be.

Canes are generally known for producing severe pain due to their thinness, so they are usually preferred only by people who like to push their boundaries.

Fans of caning often also love the sound a cane makes when it cuts through the air. That sound alone can send chills down the spine of an anticipating partner, and that element of fear is part of why some people enjoy caning.

Allow ten to forty seconds between each strike with the cane to give your partner a chance to prepare for the next one. Canes can damage the skin, so they must be used very carefully.

⏳ Whipping

While leather and suede whips are the most common, you can also find silicone whips. Most leather whips have braided tails, and some tails are knotted to increase sensation.

A bullwhip is like the kind often seen in movies and can range from around 35 to 63 inches in length. The longer the whip, the more skill is needed to control it.

Whips can easily break the skin or cause accidental injury, which is why they are usually recommended only for experienced kink users and professionals. If you do not know how to aim properly, the whip may wrap around your partner’s body in an unsafe way.

⏳ Punching

Imagine punching, but within a consensual BDSM context and with clenched fists used in a controlled way instead of reckless force. A light-to-heavy blow to fleshy areas such as the chest or hips can be one way to explore this type of impact more safely.

Be sure to stay away from the face, spine, major organs, or any other place that has not been clearly approved by your partner beforehand.

⏳ Slapping

A slapper is basically hand-based slapping that occurs on a body part other than the buttocks. For example, thighs, cheeks, breasts, and penis.

It is advisable to master the art of slapping on fleshier surfaces like the butt before exploring more delicate areas.

It is best to start with light tapping and then move on to stronger slaps, but always do so with caution because trying too hard too quickly could hurt your partner.

⏳ Hitting

You can strike genitals or breasts with open hands, or if you want something more intense, clench your fists and use the flats of your fingers rather than your knuckles, pulling your fist only a few inches away from the target.

In addition to the fleshy “sweet spots” often mentioned in impact play, some people also strike below the collarbone but above the breasts. A tense stomach can sometimes take a hit as well, but you should be especially careful to avoid the face, neck, joints, and breastbone.

⏳ Kicking

Kicking is a more extreme form of impact play because the leg muscles are very strong. A common impact play technique for some people is to kick a partner’s genitals.

You can use the top of your foot rather than your toes to reduce the harshness of the strike. Do not kick with all your strength, and be very careful not to hurt your partner.

However, the hands of the dominant partner can easily get tired, so using one of the impact tools mentioned above can also reduce pressure on the hands.